What to do when your flatmate is nothing like you đ§
This is an age-long question. Weâve seen it played out on TV shows and movies over and over again. The shocker is that itâs not always as simple as the media portray it to be.
Come to think of it, if opposites attract, what happens to âbirds of the same feather flock togetherâ? The truth is that itâs tricky to be friends or even flatmates with someone who shares a different view and philosophy of life as you do.
Psychologists who have studied attachments and relationships argue that people will only be in contact with people of similar mindset and values. As humans, we tend to lean towards people with the same attributes.
But what if you find yourself with a flatmate who is the opposite of you? As impossible as it sounds and appears, you can make it work between you and your flatmate. Itâs a matter of looking for common ground. Regardless of how different the flatmate might be, there will be something you both agree on. You may need to be ok with compromise and open to new ideas. Of course, to make all of this work, you and your flatmate need to understand that you are opposites and appreciate your differences. For instance, if you observe that your flatmate has an unrealistic optimistic perspective about life, you can subtly provide them with a different outlook. Be wary of forcing your opinion on your flatmate as that is an accident waiting to happen!
On the other hand, it might even be better to embrace your differences. You donât have to agree on everything. There will be a time when youâll win your flatmate over in arguments, give room for the flatmate to win you over some other time.
If you are open to the idea of attracting your opposite, try out the âMatch with your Oppositeâ feature on the CityFlatmate App. Thatâs if you are ready to compromise some of your positions and embrace a new outlook on life.
Letâs hope you can find the best opposite of you!
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